What makes someone confident? I’m fascinated by how other people navigate through the ups and downs of life, and as it turns out, there are quite a few things that confident people do that are different from the norm.
It’s not about how you look or where you are in your career. Confidence comes from how you feel about yourself and how you view and handle obstacles and challenges that come your way.
So, I’ve put together an empowering template of 6 things highly confident people do differently to give you a little boost when you’re starting to doubt yourself. (P.S. While these actions are examined through the feminine lens, everyone can benefit from these ideas.)
1) Discover Your WHY
Confident people are clear on their purpose on this planet. Whether your purpose is to tell stories that move people, express your emotions through art, or find creative ways to start hard conversations in our society, add a dash of your dreams to everything you do.
When you know what is important to you, it is so much easier to make decisions too!
If you’re not sure what your why is yet, I recommend Simon Sinek’s book Start With Why. Using the framework of successful leaders and companies, Sinek explores how and why humans live with purpose.
2) Take Care of Your Mind and Body
It’s scientifically proven that when you look and feel good, you are more confident. But it’s way more than just looking the part. As actors, we need to both be physically and mentally strong to perform, whether it’s 8 shows a week on a stage or 12-15 hours days on set.
When you make sure to get enough sleep, move your body daily and eat real whole foods—you’re helping to ensure you’re able to take on any project (or life issue) that may pop up. And we all know how often that happens!
And maybe most importantly, your inner work is just as vital to building your confidence as your outer/physical work. And let’s face it, your inner game rules even the best outer game! Because every action you take or don’t take is driven by how you are thinking!
There are so many ways you can practice self-care and mindfulness. Here are a few suggestions: meditation, affirmations, daily gratitude, journaling, breathwork, listening to uplifting podcasts, reading uplifting books, peaceful eating. Click here to discover even more ideas.
3) Mind Your Own Business
Highly confident people are not losing sleep (definitely NOT losing sleep!) over what other people think about them.They stay in their OWN LANE! In fact, they aren’t even wondering what kind of first impression they made at an audition or meeting. Instead, they are asking, “What did I think of them?”
This isn’t about arrogance or entitlement. I am talking about knowing and appreciating the fabulous, talented, worthy person you are, without needing external validation.
The questions we ask ourselves create powerful ripples in our self-worth, so swap out negative connotations with empowering questions. For example, instead of “Why do I always blow these big auditions,” ask yourself, “What went well today? What can I be grateful for?”
4) Don’t Stress About Your Age
The same principle mentioned above can be applied to aging. If we’re always focusing our attention on wrinkles (those are really laugh lines, babe!) and aches and pains, we’ll always find something to worry about.
Confident people understand that our bodies are continually changing; it’s the natural process of living. And how you choose to grow older and relate to the process of aging is entirely up to you!
Celebrate all the things you can do, while you can still do them. There is so much life to experience at every age, no matter what the entertainment industry or advertisements likes to tell us. Here are my fave tips to help you shift your perspective and learn to age with grace and ease.
5) Enjoy Your Solitude
Confident people are perfectly fine spending time alone. If you struggle with FOMO or are easily discouraged when plans get canceled, I offer you a perspective shift. Instead of looking at that time as a loss, focus on what you gain—extra time to take care of YOU! Whether that is through self-care, working toward your goals or just doing nothing. I mean, how often does that truly happen anyway? Ever?
And once you’ve basked in your own solitude and your social calendar is full again, surround yourself with people who inspire and uplift you. Together, your positive energies will reinforce and magnify your confidence.
6) Ask For Help
Don’t be afraid to ask for help when you need it. Part of believing in yourself is also being realistic about when you need support to overcome an obstacle. You don’t know what you don’t know, but someone out there does!
Confident people adopt the beginner’s mindset and want to continually learn. Staying open to new ideas and expanding your skills and experience, even if you fumble along the way a little, leads to a more well-rounded, happier life.
Need extra support building your confidence? Schedule a free Vision + Vibe Session with me, and learn more about how I help actors feel good in the skin they’re in and crazy confident in everything they do!
LOVE + shining bright!